Tantra, the ancient art of sacred sex. A never ending learning experience that turns sex into lovemaking and pleasure into ecstasy. A skill from ancient traditions that involves techniques that can increase your staying power naturally and find spaces of pure bliss throughout the entire love making session not just at the finale.

Where does the beginner start? Here are a few tips for a beginner to Tantra. They are mainly for the Tantric goddess within, but males can benefit as well.

1 – Set up your bedroom as a sacred love space

Express yourself. Dress up your bedroom to create a special love space. Flowers, crystals, pillows, shells, candles anything of beauty that allows you to feel beautiful and relaxed. Turning your room into a sacred place of beauty, burning essential oils soothes the spirit and brings out the goddess within.

2 – Open the eyes

The eyes are the windows to the soul. Lie next to your partner, both naked and gently gaze into the others eyes. Many find this uncomfortable at the start so close your eyes every so often for a moment before continuing. Make sure your gaze is gentle, soft and not intrusive. Look deep within, past all the persona built up over the years to the true core, the loving vulnerable soul who has chosen you to be their partner in love.

3 – The breath

Often as climax approaches the breath speeds up and becomes more shallow which in turn brings climax about sooner. Special Tantric breathing techniques can spread the energy and extend spaces of heightened sexual pleasure resulting in prolonged time in that ecstasy zone.

For the beginner practice deeper slow breathing and to connect more fully with your partner try breathing in sync. This helps to get you more relaxed and stay focused in the present. When totally present in the now moment every sensation can become more powerful.

4 – Stopping

Stopping during lovemaking can be an exhilarating experience. Remember its all about pleasure not just getting the job done with the mind wandering. Stop, return to the moment breathe in sync, look into each others eyes if you wish, and feel the waves of deep pleasure pulsating through out your body.

5 – Vocalise

The strength a length of an orgasm is affected by the volume of noise you can put out (if you have kids of neighbours close by a pillow is useful). As climax approaches (about a 7-8 on a scale of 1 – 10) inhale as slowly as you can for as long as you are able. Then release the breath with as much sound as you can. The build up to climax will last as long as you can inhale and your orgasm will last the length of your scream.

These 5 exercises will greatly improve your lovemaking experience. To go into more depth and for more tips and techniques that will have your partner asking for more, then please visit www.beginnerstantra.